Hello Dear Followers,
It’s be a while since I last wrote here. In all honesty, I haven’t been reading as much as I want to. I have so many books with bookmarks in them. Time to remedy that.
(For those of you have trouble getting on the reading train, I recommend reading at least 45 minutes a night)
Anyway, I wanted to write a blog post about “City of Girls” by Elizabeth Gilbert. Her book came out last month and it’s an awesome read.
The story is about a girl named Vivian Morris, who fails out of Vassar in 1940 and is shipped off to live with her Aunt Peg in New York City. It is there where her whole life as she has known it changes. Her aunt owns a theater in the heart of the city and the best way to describe it that it is filled with showgirls, sex and drinking and overall good crazy time.
I am not done with the book yet, I am about 100 pages until the end. I won’t give too much away, other than to talk about a very important theme in this book.
Sex. Vivian comes to the city a virgin and is de-virginized (is this even a word?) and ends up partying and sleeping with every Tom, Dick and Harry. This gets her in a bit of trouble. Anyway, I wanted to approach the thought about how times have changed in terms of how men viewed women in the 1940s that weren’t virgins at marriage and guys of today.
I believe back then guys wanted a good clean woman who hadn’t slept with anyone before marriage (while this thought is archaic even for me) I think today, if you haven’t slept with everyone you are considered damaged goods just as much as you were damaged goods back then when you did.
I have seen this theme in so many period pieces both in books and movies. I know today we have more liberties than we as women had back then. We’re more independent, we’re more self-sufficient.
I have to ask the question, what happened? I am not saying we have to wait until marriage to sleep with someone, certainly not. What I am asking do men have more respect for women today if they have slept with multiple men? Do people who haven’t had the life experiences that other girls might, damned to hell in meeting the right guy because she isn’t as loose as the girl next to her?
I have been told multiple times that men today, don’t want that responsibility of being the “first” one. While men in the time this book takes place would have been honored. What happened?
I think the more serious girls who respect their bodies and respect the act of sex are at more of a loss today than girls who don’t. It might sound skewed, but I have seen too much where men will pick a girl who has slept with everyone, respect her and treat her like a queen and toss away the ones who haven’t.
Does this say a lot about the men, maybe. I don’t know. Anyway, I wanted to approach this with all of you and sincerely hope you read “City of Girls” it is truly an excellent work of fiction from an author that captured the time period so well in her voice and in researching the time in which this book takes place.
Until next time!