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Courage

Hello Dear Followers,

Well, I finally finished “The Help” by Kathryn Stockett.  I enjoyed it, I thought it dragged on a bit, but overall I enjoyed it. I loved the characters of Skeeter, Minny and Aibileen.

Tonight I saw the movie and I was told it was different than the book and it was,  major parts from the book were left out, but it was just perfect.  I didn’t feel it needed all that extra details the book included.  I felt each character played their part perfectly.

My heart hurt when I was visually seeing the inequality Minny, Aibileen, Yule May and black people went through during that time. To treat someone so horribly simply because of the color of their skin is just so horrible.

I found the book and the movie really stand on their own, one can’t be compared to the other or considered better than the other. If you read the book, that’s great, it’s a good read, if you just saw the movie, that is enough too.

Until next time….

P.S. I just love Octavia Spencer! She is by far the cutest thing!

Skeeter

Hello Dear Followers,

It has been a long time since I wrote a post, I am terribly sorry. Life definitely gets in the way sometimes.  I am still reading “The Help” I didn’t expect to be going into another month with it, but it is what it is.

I wanted to talk a little about Skeeter, I can definitely relate to this character in many ways even if we are from two different decades. Her family, friends are pressuring her in their own way to marry, but it looks like to me she wants to live according her own standards and not the standards of others. And she is a writer! I really feel a connection to this character and her daily frustrations from never feeling quite right and on the same level as her friends and never fully meeting the expectations of her family.

What people in her life should understand is that they need to allow her to live and run at her own pace instead of trying to mold her into what they think she should be. She is awkward, not graceful and has a name like Skeeter.. really?

But I think she sees people for who they are and not the color of their skin. She doesn’t view the help as the help, but as people who have feelings, lives of their own and wants to tell their story. I think that is a rarity in the 1960s for a white woman to have compassion for a black person.

I really like this character and I like the connections she is making with Aibileen. I look forward to reading more about her.

Until next time…

Our Role Models

Hello Dear Followers,

As promised, I am posting my first thoughts about “The Help.” I think so far the book is hilarious, I think it points out the obvious about everyday people in a way we wouldn’t normally say out loud.

It reminds me of other books I have read including “To Kill a Mockingbird,”  “The Secret Life of Bees” and “The Color of Water” just to name a few. I couldn’t help but feel the similarities from all of these books.  It’s in their tone, the circumstance and while some are heavier than others, they all have some sort of hilarity to them when stating the true facts about life.

I have to admit I haven’t read enough yet to form a complete a opinion for what I have read so far, but I can definitely already see why the popularity was so strong and I look forward to seeing the movie.

While I don’t see anything wrong with having a maid/nanny when you have children, I do feel these women in the 1960s and even today for that matter don’t take their roles as parents seriously. It’s like life is one big social hour.  Mae Mobley is just looking for a little attention from the woman that gave birth to her, is she really asking too much?

While I don’t know how far into the future this book goes, I definitely see this poor little girl resenting her mother one day and having a strong attachment to  Aibileen. How can she not? I mean this will be her female role model, the woman she will remember being there.

It’s funny how family members and non-family members  in our childhoods can have such an impact on who we become as adults, who we gravitate to in our adult lives and who we don’t because of their lack of attention or affection or whatever.

Sharing a personal part of my own life, I always had two parents, my mother was more attentive to my brother and I than my father. My father, while he was there to put food on the table and he worked hard, I find now I hardly know him, just today I found out he was a photographer in his younger years. I find this out now simply because we never had a full father-daughter relationship. My “father-daughter” relationship occurs on a regular basis with my maternal grandfather, many often mistaken him for my father because he is always there. Many don’t know my father at all.

This relationship, or lack there of has impacted the person I’ve become as an adult, never trusting anyone entirely because no one can be counted upon even if my grandfather and mother were there for my brother and I .

I feel a similar situation could happen for Mae Mobley’s character, poor little girl. She will never fully develop a relationship with her mother, because her mother is too preoccupied with her social life to really take responsibility for her daughter’s needs and wants in life even if she is so young.

I will post soon, so until then..

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