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Girl, Wash Your Face

Hello Dear Followers,

Gosh, it’s been a long time since I’ve written a post on here. My apologies. But life gets in the way sometimes from doing things you need to do for yourself. Like reading and writing, in my case.

Anyway, I just finished “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. I wanted to share my thoughts about the book with you.

I thought the book was good overall, I didn’t however, find anything earth shattering or new about what Hollis had to say. It’s stuff I’ve heard before.

I loved the motivation she brings throughout the book, the honesty and certainly the humor. I watch her live videos on Instagram on a regular basis and I definitely could hear her humor in this book.

I loved how she provided tips how make things possible in our lives through what has helped her. Some self-help authors don’t do that. They usually share their motivation and you’re still left with, “Well, how do I do that?” She laid it out quite easily.

I resonated with a lot of her chapters. It was nice to know there others in the world who have felt the same way you do about everyday life. Whether it relates to weight gain or loss, getting past your shit, traumas you’ve experienced in the past. We’ve all had these and it’s nice to know I am not alone.

In one of her chapters, she says, “Pain and trauma are a violent whirlpool, and they will drag you under if you don’t battle to stay afloat. There will be times, especially in the beginning, when it will take everything within you to keep your head above those waves.”  

I felt that quote. We’ve all had moments in our lives where it seems like we will never get our heads above water and we are gasping for air only to be pushed down again by the waves that come crashing behind us.

In another chapter, she says, “The difficult seasons we walk through are how we learn to build up strength to manage any situation. The strongest people you know? They’ve probably walked some pretty hard roads and built up skills necessary to be emotional giants”  

All I can add to that, is always look out for the “strong people” in your life.

I don’t have much more to add to this post, I am looking forward to her next book, “Girl Stop Apologizing” this year. Because we must stop apologizing…for everything!

Until next time.

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Our Role Models

Hello Dear Followers,

As promised, I am posting my first thoughts about “The Help.” I think so far the book is hilarious, I think it points out the obvious about everyday people in a way we wouldn’t normally say out loud.

It reminds me of other books I have read including “To Kill a Mockingbird,”  “The Secret Life of Bees” and “The Color of Water” just to name a few. I couldn’t help but feel the similarities from all of these books.  It’s in their tone, the circumstance and while some are heavier than others, they all have some sort of hilarity to them when stating the true facts about life.

I have to admit I haven’t read enough yet to form a complete a opinion for what I have read so far, but I can definitely already see why the popularity was so strong and I look forward to seeing the movie.

While I don’t see anything wrong with having a maid/nanny when you have children, I do feel these women in the 1960s and even today for that matter don’t take their roles as parents seriously. It’s like life is one big social hour.  Mae Mobley is just looking for a little attention from the woman that gave birth to her, is she really asking too much?

While I don’t know how far into the future this book goes, I definitely see this poor little girl resenting her mother one day and having a strong attachment to  Aibileen. How can she not? I mean this will be her female role model, the woman she will remember being there.

It’s funny how family members and non-family members  in our childhoods can have such an impact on who we become as adults, who we gravitate to in our adult lives and who we don’t because of their lack of attention or affection or whatever.

Sharing a personal part of my own life, I always had two parents, my mother was more attentive to my brother and I than my father. My father, while he was there to put food on the table and he worked hard, I find now I hardly know him, just today I found out he was a photographer in his younger years. I find this out now simply because we never had a full father-daughter relationship. My “father-daughter” relationship occurs on a regular basis with my maternal grandfather, many often mistaken him for my father because he is always there. Many don’t know my father at all.

This relationship, or lack there of has impacted the person I’ve become as an adult, never trusting anyone entirely because no one can be counted upon even if my grandfather and mother were there for my brother and I .

I feel a similar situation could happen for Mae Mobley’s character, poor little girl. She will never fully develop a relationship with her mother, because her mother is too preoccupied with her social life to really take responsibility for her daughter’s needs and wants in life even if she is so young.

I will post soon, so until then..

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