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The Next Person You Meet in Heaven

Hello Dear Followers,

Have you ever found a book in your life that changed everything for you? Many years ago, I found “The Five People You Meet in Heaven” by Mitch Albom. When I discovered this book, I was about 22-years-old and working at a salon and spa here in Connecticut.

At the time I was in a terribly dark place in my life and this book changed everything for me and how I viewed the world at the time. It was definitely a book that became an instant favorite that I never forgot as I got older. It was recommended to me by someone I had worked with at the spa who knew of this dark place I was in.

It taught me that every place and everyone you meet you were meant to. At the time I didn’t know how much of that I believed or wanted to believe, but I was instantly glued to this book and finished it in a matter of 24 hours.

Flash forward 14 years, and the author came out with a sequel. “The Next Person You Meet in Heaven.” I was so excited, I honestly thought this was the universe’s way of providing a comfort again.

And I have to say, I loved this book, but it didn’t do the thing for me as the first one did. It wasn’t until the very last page, where the author says, “She would tell her that all endings are also beginnings, we just don’t know it at the time.”

This was probably the only line that resonates with me at this moment. In the last couple of years I’ve seen endings and while I am still working through those endings without any explanation or cause, I have seen a world of beginnings take shape in my life. I may never know why the endings happened, but maybe I am not supposed to, not yet.

I’d like to believe that I have been protected from what isn’t meant to be part of my life and that whatever comes next is much better than whatever was left behind.

Other than this, I honestly don’t have any other reaction to this book, which I think it also great, because often times we cling to things we think we need not realizing we’re our own savior that no book, person or event can help us with.

I was much too young during my first darkness and today there is so much light in my life that the darkness I once felt so many years ago cannot and will not rear its head again.

Until next time!

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Girl, Wash Your Face

Hello Dear Followers,

Gosh, it’s been a long time since I’ve written a post on here. My apologies. But life gets in the way sometimes from doing things you need to do for yourself. Like reading and writing, in my case.

Anyway, I just finished “Girl, Wash Your Face” by Rachel Hollis. I wanted to share my thoughts about the book with you.

I thought the book was good overall, I didn’t however, find anything earth shattering or new about what Hollis had to say. It’s stuff I’ve heard before.

I loved the motivation she brings throughout the book, the honesty and certainly the humor. I watch her live videos on Instagram on a regular basis and I definitely could hear her humor in this book.

I loved how she provided tips how make things possible in our lives through what has helped her. Some self-help authors don’t do that. They usually share their motivation and you’re still left with, “Well, how do I do that?” She laid it out quite easily.

I resonated with a lot of her chapters. It was nice to know there others in the world who have felt the same way you do about everyday life. Whether it relates to weight gain or loss, getting past your shit, traumas you’ve experienced in the past. We’ve all had these and it’s nice to know I am not alone.

In one of her chapters, she says, “Pain and trauma are a violent whirlpool, and they will drag you under if you don’t battle to stay afloat. There will be times, especially in the beginning, when it will take everything within you to keep your head above those waves.”  

I felt that quote. We’ve all had moments in our lives where it seems like we will never get our heads above water and we are gasping for air only to be pushed down again by the waves that come crashing behind us.

In another chapter, she says, “The difficult seasons we walk through are how we learn to build up strength to manage any situation. The strongest people you know? They’ve probably walked some pretty hard roads and built up skills necessary to be emotional giants”  

All I can add to that, is always look out for the “strong people” in your life.

I don’t have much more to add to this post, I am looking forward to her next book, “Girl Stop Apologizing” this year. Because we must stop apologizing…for everything!

Until next time.

“And I Love That” – Kyle Cease

Hello Dear Followers,

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I just finished the book “I Hope I Screw This Up” by Kyle Cease.  I was reading this for a Facebook book club I am part of.  I thought overall the book was pretty good,  however it didn’t move me like other “self-help” books have in the past. I am not sure why. I found it hard to take him seriously, maybe he made too many jokes or put too many pictures in his book.

One thing however stood out. He said whenever you have a fear-based thought add “And I love that” to the end of the sentence.  I just about started laughing hysterically. Because it changes the thought entirely.  It makes the thought easier to bear and puts a different spin on fear.

I also took part in some of his exercises where he asked readers to name their assets, the things they loved in life and that was heartwarming.

I think if you are looking for a light read that is both helpful and humorous, I do recommend this book.

Smart or Beautiful?

lovewarriorHello Dear Followers,

Over the years, my best friend and I have had several conversations ranging in various topics, in one of our conversations, I had asked what I thought was rather a simple question, “Why can’t people just be themselves?”

She answered immediately with, “Do you know how fuckin’ hard that is to do?”

I replied, “No, I don’t.” Because I didn’t.  I didn’t know because I was always myself.  Maybe it was pure ignorance, but I just didn’t know how to be anyone else.

She then said, “Well, I guess you have had a higher sense of self.”

I began to think at that point, whether there had been a time I wasn’t myself. But I couldn’t think of a one.

I recently began reading “Love Warrior” by Glennon Doyle Melton.  A book that everyone (including the author) is calling “a book about marriage.” I suppose that is true, I just haven’t gotten to the marriage part yet.

I am in the beginning, where the author talks about who she was growing up or rather who she wasn’t.

She talks about how in her younger years she was always considered beautiful by those who came in contact with her.   As I was reading this, several things she said struck me and it’s this:

“When strangers admire me, I practice returning their attention. I understand that beauty is a form of kindness. It is for giving away and I try to be generous.”

She goes on to say that her parents tried to instill balance in her life by telling her she was smart as well.

“I’m an early reader, and at four, converse like an adult.” “But soon I realize that smart is more complicated than beautiful….”  “I begin to understand that beauty warms people and smart cools people.” 

Let me preface this by saying, I am smart. Always have been, somewhat absent minded, but smart just the same. I grew up loving to read, I enjoyed history and studying people and the world around me. Beautiful wasn’t a word I would exactly use to describe myself.

As I have gotten older, I embraced all of these “smart” aspects me and accepting that I wasn’t physically beautiful.  Sure, I have physical traits that I love, but I was never completely happy with it all.

People reading this might say things like, “Beauty only runs skin deep.” or “Think more of yourself, Daniela.”

I never wanted to play the dumb blonde to get noticed, I never knew how to flirt or if I did, I didn’t use it.  I loved that I loved to read, I loved that I knew I thought differently than most girls my age, but does this get the attention of the opposite sex?  No. You hardly get noticed.

Glennon goes on to talk about how she became someone else as she got older, having a “representative” of sorts, getting involved in things that could destroy anyone.

Anyway, I think this is an excellent and easy read, definitely worth diving into.  While this is one of six books I am reading right now, I will definitely get back to you with more thoughts as I continue on with this book.

Until next time…

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thumbs Down

Hello Dear Followers,

Well, I finished “Much Ado About Loving” by Jack Murighan and Maura Kelly. And I have to admit, I found it boring. I didn’t feel like I got anything from this book, like at all. Well, that’s not true, I was given a good list of new books I would want to look into.

While I know the book’s premise was to relate our relationship issues to our favorite novels, I wish they hadn’t. I didn’t want someone to tell me about a book I could honestly find out about myself.

I’m finding that like most “self-help” books, like I thought this one turned out to be, are boring. Some are funny and some are just plain annoying. Telling us what is wrong with today’s relationships, if we didn’t know  already.

I may be a little harsh here, but I’m not sure I’d recommend this book, I just thought it was boring and struggled to finish it, I honestly have to admit I skimmed the end, because I had had enough.  I do think if you do choose to read this book, that you take with you a notepad and pen and start making a list of the books they mention.

I also found them to be repetitive.  I believe, and I could be mistaken that they talked about the same topics more than once.  I don’t have much more to say about this book, so I am going to leave you here. I will be back shortly to introduce my March book! Stay tuned.

Until next time…

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